Affair & Infidelity Counseling

Society’s view on infidelity is very negative. People either involved in an affair, or were betrayed by their partner, often suffer alone and in silence. They experience a lot of shame, guilt, humiliation and grief and are worried they will be judged by family or friends. This rings true for both physical infidelity and emotional affairs.

Whether you are the betrayed person or the partner with an affair, each of you is going through a ton of emotions and most likely feels overwhelmed by it. I get it. I am here to help you get through this crisis either as a couple or individually.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Infidelity in marriages and committed relationships is becoming increasingly more common among both of the sexes. Numbers about infidelity vary from study to study, but they range from 20% to 70%.

Common Reasons for Infidelity

Struggling after the affair reveal

• Did your world fall apart because you just discovered that your partner is cheating on you?
• Do you wonder if it is worth working on your relationship after all that happened?
• Can you trust your spouse anymore and wonder if you ever will again?

You probably feel like your world was just shattered, right? Well, it was. You’re in a lot of pain that’s compounded with a mix of other emotions like shock, confusion, anger, and sadness. Affair counseling can help you process the situation and guide you as you start to heal.

Conflicted while in an affair

• Do you struggle with the idea of giving up something that brought passion and excitement to your life?
• Do you want to rebuild your relationship after the disclosure of infidelity, but don’t know how to do that?
• Do you feel guilt and shame towards your spouse, but can’t give up the butterflies and excitement you experience when you are with your affair partner?

If you’re in the middle of an affair or your partner found out about the infidelity, you’re feeling a wide range of emotions from embarrassment and guilt to confusion and relief. Infidelity counseling can help you process your emotions and guide you toward figuring out your next step.

Healing together as a couple

• Do you wonder how your partner can help you heal after the affair?
• Do you want to work toward a healthier relationship with renewed trust?
• Do you want to understand how you potentially contributed to relationship dissatisfaction?

Seeking therapy after an affair as couple can be beneficial, too. It can help you make meaning out of the affair which can help rebuild trust. It can also help you work toward a new and more connected relationship as you process the affair and the emotions together.

How Does Infidelity & Affair Counseling Work?

Infidelity and affair counseling isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach and it requires you to be open and honest. We work together to understand the what, why, and how so you can work on the what now? Infidelity counseling can be therapeutic and it’s not a linear process or path.

It can be beneficial to work through an affair as a couple, especially when you want to work toward a more fulfilling relationship with your partner. It helps you both get what you need from each other. But, infidelity counseling can also be helpful as an individual when you’re looking to heal from being cheated on or you’re trying to figure out how you got to a place where you had an affair.

What Does Infidelity Counseling Look Like?

There’s no judgement here.

I offer a safe and warm space where you can talk about your unique story on your own terms. I will help you figure out the next steps which can help with revealing the infidelity, grieving the loss of your affair, reconciling with your partner, or helping you as a couple to heal from the betrayal and hurt to work on your relationship towards a happier future together.